What a difference!

What a difference having the right perspective makes, even just a little bit. I've told myself many times after having hit a dead-end with a woman that I need to have 20 others to talk to, to get myself right back up and keep talking. Well yesterday I did just that. Knowing that the written word is one of my strong suits in communication I posted an ad on Craigslist. Yeah yeah I know the reputation of the place. And yet real people still do meet from there socially, and I'm not talking business transactions if you get my meaning:

I've debated on doing this but I have to tell you that being a private person I find it difficult at times to make connections with others. I get out and about but there are few opportunities to really meet and talk and interact with others in my life. Smiling at the store clerks is nice and chatting up someone in line if they have a friendly face is all find and good. But after that we all go our separate ways, living our separate lives in our own protective shells. I like my space but what I really am looking for is someone who will share that time with me. I need a woman who is emotionally available to me and only me, someone who is over past relationships and truly ready to move on with her life.

I'm not looking for casual sex. The bond I'm seeking goes way beyond that of mere orgasms. But with the right two people it all starts with friendship and slowly builds from there. And I do mean slowly. I truly want to get to know you without sex clouding our judgment about each other and getting in the way of having us truly know each other as people. You don't have to show me your tits. In fact I don't care if you're flat-chested as long as you have a heart of gold to match mine because that's mandatory. I'm looking for someone who's kind, caring, intelligent, giving and thoughtful because those are qualities possessed by me. I want a woman who's been bound and convinced that all the good guys are either married or gay because I am neither of those. Sexy is a given and with beauty can be in the eye of the beholder. There's got to be that spark, that chemistry between us that could light up the night.

My interests are varied and many, sports-football is my passion, baseball too. I love music ranging from classical to Conway Twitty and everything in between. I love travel, good food, street festivals, art, hiking and exploring my curiosity about various things in life. Does this sound like you? Take a chance. Please talk to me if it does.

I could sit at home and ruminate over what I did wrong or go out on my own and never meet anyone at a party or gathering. Or I could do what I do best, communicate with others with my writing, reaching those who were looking for someone at the same time I am. The response by the way has been quite good I think. Five actual women so far have responded today. No bots at all. They all loved my ad! I've talked to one on the phone already today and am meeting her for supper and calling another tonight. And as I wrote this another actual response. Kinda scary in a way, that just a little change can make such a difference. The moral of the story is a quote I've read but at times forget,"Man can alter his life by altering his thinking. William James
How very true.